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Life Rules

General Principles:

Have your principles defined, with top priorities enumerated. When comes time to make a major decision, you'll already have the mental infrastructure in place

The negativity bias is strong. Don't let your fear of losing inhibit your ability to take (reasonable) risks

Compound interest is your friend. Invest in good habits and indexed ETFs

Your brain quickly adapts to new environments. Because of this, don't expect discrete "things" (accomplishments, goods, etc) to change your day-day mental state

Your brain can rationalize any behavior. Index yourself to a given standard, and regularly calibrate.

Stress-test your beliefs regularly.

Interacting with Others

To keep a relationship from becoming negative, you need ~5x positive interactions for every 1x negative interaction. Think carefully before allowing a negative interaction to occur

Speak with precision. What is heard is often different than intended

If somebody behaves in a bothersome way, use the following response template:
"When you do {thing}, it makes me feel {this way}."
This reduces the emotions involved, while giving feedback to other party on how their behavior affects you

If you want to complain about the way things are, you must first take ownership in the planning phase

Excepting short-term sprints, put on your own oxygen mask first.

Using Technology

Smartphone use dramatically reduces your ability to engage in delayed gratification.

If you need a brain break, don't watch TV. Rather take a nap or meditate. Your brain is more active when you sleep than when you watch TV, and yet more refreshed afterwards.

The algorithm constantly iterates to make the most addicting content for you. If you want autonomy, avoid giving it a foothold.

For me this manifests as:

Physical Health

Get >7hrs of sleep every night

Get outside for >45min total every day

For me, this generally manifests by bicycling to pick my son up from preschool

Eat healthy. Inspired by Michael Pollan's Food Rules, this means:

These are general rules, and occasionally (often?) violated. I'm not dogmatic, but if I use these as guidelines for the habits I build, I'll naturally choose them more often than not.